Thursday, October 20, 2011

Things I Have Been Learning about Boundaries

A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty;
rescue them, and you will have to do it again. - Proverbs 19:19, NIV

Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained. - C.S. Lewis

If they keep saying that they are sorry but do the same thing over and over again, then saying that they are sorry just becomes another lie!

Some doors are meant to be closed and when you try to reopen them, you remember why you closed them.

There comes a time when you can't allow your friends' and family members' problems to become your problems.

Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don't even deserve to be an issue in your life!

In order for someone to "ruin" your day, week, month or life, you have to allow them!

Control is not respect. Control is not love. Having control of someone will not make them love or respect you, it will only make them resent you!

My prayer: Lord if you don't change the situation, change me! - Kimberly Jones

When you are struggling, and you feel stress, don't say, "God is in charge, I'm just fine." Then it's impossible for others to support you. Instead, say, "God is in charge, but I need support." Then good things happen. That's how it works. - Dr. John Townsend

Telling the truth and making someone cry is better than telling a lie and making someone smile.

A sign you're growing in grace: You don't rescue people as often or as quickly from the pain of growth. - Scotty Smith

No wonder you don't have anything to offer Mr./Miss Right:
You give keep giving all of yourself to Mr./Miss Wrong!

If you feel like a prisoner, that's not a relationship--that's called slavery!

Boundaries are a must in your relationships because they help you navigate risks.
Boundaries are a must in dating because they serve as your borders which define and protect you.
Boundaries are a must in dating because they help you be yourself so you don't get lost in someone else.
Boundaries are a must in dating because they help you choose better people who will help you become a better person. - Kenny Pugh

Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it. - Proverbs 4:23, NIV

Only follow your heart if you have control over your emotions. If your heart isn't right following it will simply lead to self-destruction. - Pierre Jeanty

Nothing will sabotage your Life Mission faster than a wrong relationship. - Rick Warren

Anyone who is available all of the time is not available any of the time. - Elton Trueblood

Don’t undertake “missionary dating.” If a person doesn't have the same beliefs as you, your emotions will connect but your spiritual side will experience a disconnect. - Craig Henry

Often when we confront, our emotions cloud our thinking. The best way to confront someone is by being as clear and direct as possible. This should not be done in a condescending way or in an aggressive attacking way. - Chad Stutzman

There are two kinds of pain:
Now pain is when you face reality and do life the hard way.
Later pain is when you avoid hard things, and suffer later.
Now pain always trumps later pain. - Dr. John Townsend

It's great to have options, but you should refuse to be one. - Kimberly Jones

A healthy relationship takes equal effort from BOTH parties:
Stop chasing people who don't want to be caught.

It takes two healthy people to create a healthy relationship. - Mandy Hale

You can't live your life based just on what everyone else thinks. - Joyce Meyer

When you pick something you'd sacrifice everything for, make sure it would sacrifice everything for you. - Bob Goff

Don't change for someone to like you, be yourself and the right people will love you.

Never settle for "layaway love," where they put you on hold until they're ready to come back & get you. You're worth more. - Mandy Hale

Nobody wants to hear this, but sometimes the person that you want most is the person that you're best without. - RelationsMentor

A relationship without expectations is not a relationship.

Who you follow determines what follows you. The company you keep determines what accompanies you!

Bad company ruins good morals. - 1 Corinthians 15:33, ESV

He who walks with wise men will be wise,
But the companion of fools will suffer harm. - Proverbs 13:20, NASB

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers. - Psalm 1:1, ESV

Tell courage it doesn't need to knock at your door any longer; have it walk into your life every day like it owns the place. - Bob Goff

I can't control anyone else's plane. But I can choose my airspace. - Steven Furtick

Wrong people don't always leave your life voluntarily. Sometimes, they need help finding the door. - Kimberly Jones

God created you to connect and ask for support from good and safe people, who will lift you up when you fall (Ecclesiastes 4:10). Safe people love you just as you are, but they want you to be better as well. Who are your safe people? You only need a few. Be one, too. - John Townsend

Missing someone is not an indication that you need to be with them. - Reverend Run

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. -Ralph Waldo Emerson