’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. - Alfred Lord Tennyson
Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: “It might have been!” - John Greenleaf Whittier
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be, yours. If it does not return, it was never yours to begin with. - author unknown
Every day, single adults who are tired of waiting for the perfect match ask themselves, “Is this the best I can do?” Too often, the answer is “You’ll do” rather than “I do.” - Harold Ivan Smith
Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket—safe, dark, motionless, airless—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable. - C.S. Lewis
Resist the temptation to trifle with other people’s feelings. It may be fun to “play fish” like a trout on a fly line, but it is cruel, it is dishonest, and it is dangerous. - Elisabeth Elliot
Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without. - Dr. James C. Dobson
A relationship isn’t worth repairing if it forces you to compromise your values or undermine your self-respect. - Les & Leslie Parrott
If you love someone so much that you want that person to be happy—even if you are not the one to make him or her happy—then you really love that person. - Ray Short
The freest person in the world is one with an open heart, a broken spirit, and a new direction in which to travel. - Gordon MacDonald
Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. - Susan L. Taylor
Is that love I see in your eyes, or merely a reflection of mine? - author unknown
Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it’s what you are expected to give— which is everything. - author unknown
The opposite of love is not hate—it is indifference. - author unknown
Immature love says, “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says, “I need you because I love you.” - Erich Fromm
By far the most common reason people stay in an unhappy relationship is this: even a bad relationship can bring a feeling of security—no matter how false it is. - Les & Leslie Parrott
Saturday, December 9, 2006
Let It Go!
Let It Go!
There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.
I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The Bible says, “They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of them belonged to us” (1 John 2:19).
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay. Let them go.
And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s dead. You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. I believe in good-bye.
It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!
If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to... LET IT GO!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains... LET IT GO!
If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth... LET IT GO!
If someone has angered you... LET IT GO!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge... LET IT GO!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction... LET IT GO!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents... LET IT GO!
If you have a bad attitude... LET IT GO!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better... LET IT GO!
If you’re stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him... LET IT GO!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship... LET IT GO!
If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help themselves... LET IT GO!
If you’re feeling depressed and stressed... LET IT GO!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying “take your hands off of it,” then you need to... LET IT GO!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for this new year... LET IT GO!
Get Right or Get Left... think about it, and then... LET IT GO!
- T.D. Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.
I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The Bible says, “They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of them belonged to us” (1 John 2:19).
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay. Let them go.
And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s dead. You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. I believe in good-bye.
It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!
If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to... LET IT GO!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains... LET IT GO!
If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth... LET IT GO!
If someone has angered you... LET IT GO!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge... LET IT GO!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction... LET IT GO!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents... LET IT GO!
If you have a bad attitude... LET IT GO!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better... LET IT GO!
If you’re stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him... LET IT GO!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship... LET IT GO!
If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help themselves... LET IT GO!
If you’re feeling depressed and stressed... LET IT GO!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying “take your hands off of it,” then you need to... LET IT GO!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for this new year... LET IT GO!
Get Right or Get Left... think about it, and then... LET IT GO!
- T.D. Jakes
Only the One who Risks Is Free
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To share your ideas and dreams with others is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken,
because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing:
does nothing,
has nothing,
and is nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow.
But they simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, or live.
Chained by close-mindedness, they become slaves.
They have forfeited freedom.
Only the one who risks is free.
- anonymous
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To share your ideas and dreams with others is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken,
because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing:
does nothing,
has nothing,
and is nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow.
But they simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, or live.
Chained by close-mindedness, they become slaves.
They have forfeited freedom.
Only the one who risks is free.
- anonymous
What The Bible Says about Hope and Healing
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord,… “plans to give you hope and a future.” - Jeremiah 29:11
Nothing can separate us from the love of God. - Romans 8:39
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. - Psalm 34:18
Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint. - Isaiah 40:31
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. - Philippians 4:13
Nothing can separate us from the love of God. - Romans 8:39
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. - Psalm 34:18
Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint. - Isaiah 40:31
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. - Philippians 4:13
What the Bible Says about Breaking Up
Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? - Amos 3:3
Live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. - 1 Peter 3:8-9
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. - Ephesians 4:31-32
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. - Colossians 3:9
Do everything without complaining or arguing. - Philippians 2:14
Live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. - 1 Peter 3:8-9
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. - Ephesians 4:31-32
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. - Colossians 3:9
Do everything without complaining or arguing. - Philippians 2:14
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This is not about me but is intended to be a destination where single Christians can come to improve their interpersonal relationship skills. My plan is to regularly post uplifting thoughts and point you to resources that will help you and encourage you in your single adult journey.
Dialog is encouraged, so the comments feature is enabled. However, the moderation feature is enabled to prevent spam, profile-posting, and inappropriate comments.
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